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Welcome to another of my guide Melinda’s Friday messages about how to live life. Melinda and I work together to help people through the tarot readings I deliver. Melinda was a reader in her life. She has a great perspective drawn from both her last lifetime, being born in 1696, and her subsequent time as a spirit.
When the individual defines themselves as separate or outside what is going on it fosters conflict. It can all be turned around with a questions.
Let me start by saying we are all pack animals. That is our history and our nature by heredity. Yet we all function on a one-to-one level too. Every relationship is with an individual. Being pack minded we often try and make sense of these relationships through our ideas of the hierarchy or positions people hold. Statements like “I never do…”, “All women are…”, and so on put us into conflict with the world in which we live. If we still lived in small packs it might still make sense but we are beyond that point in history.
The challenge is that when we look at the group level these generalizations might be true or at least true-ish. Generalizations are often true from a limited perspective. However, they do not allow for individual complexity and diversity – on the individual level generalizations tend to just be divisive. When we switch levels we become open to actually connecting with the person in front of us.
As a reader, I was always in one way or another an outsider. I lead a nomadic life. I was never from the places I visited. Sometimes they did not speak my first language. My role as reader set me further apart. Yet when people came to see me it was always human to human. A human being looking for love, success, health, and happiness. Individual, full of hope, fear, dreams and passion. On that level we can relate and connect.
In the next week try two things:
- Notice when you are defining yourself in relationship to other people.
- Ask, “How am I the same as this person?” instead.
Thank you for listening.
Melinda
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