More often than not clients have internal obstacles that are stronger, or perhaps even responsible, for their external challenges. They come to a reading asking for help dealing with their boyfriend, their boss, their luck, or whatever. Though the discussion certainly covers what is going on in the world, the reading – in the end – becomes about what they can do to let go, move on, change what they are putting out into the world. It becomes about what is going on inside them and how that interacts with the world.

The gateway into figuring what needs to change comes from asking the client the right questions and looking for what aspect of their lives is inconsistent with their goals. My favourite question is, “What is the most important thing to you?” By getting them to name their core goal it becomes much easier to see where they are stuck in other areas. I know that hierarchy can be a dirty word, but having a sense of what part of your life is more important, and which is not, is crucial to sorting out these internal blocks. If your goal is your career, then anything else that gets in the way needs to be dealt with as less important. If the goal is peace – then anything or anyone that does not bring peace to your life needs to be removed.

More often than not these internal blocks have their roots in the horrible monster ‘should’ – this beast in the number one block between people and their happiness. I should work on this relationship, I should want to make more money, I should want to do this or that. Should is a monster that keeps us tied to what makes us unhappy. If you look at the devil card it might as well say should on the chain holding the unhappy couple in place. If we are caught up in ‘should’ than our true path will be obscured by expectation. We have a harder time seeing what is. Our decisions are less clear because of the obscuring power of expectations.

What is your should?
Along our path we all incorporate some element of ‘should’ into our decisions. This exercise is geared at revealing what the hidden ‘shoulds’ are, so you can make a deliberate choice to keep them or not. This process requires you to work directly with your subconscious by answering the questions as quickly as possible. This is a very intuitive way of working with the cards and yourself so don’t get caught up in what the cards mean, or being too intellectual about the process.

Get yourself all set up before you begin. Shuffle your deck and lay it on a table with a pen and paper beside it.

READY
SET
GO!

What is the one thing you want more than anything?
Write it down

What are you doing to support it?
Flip a card and write down the first thought that comes to mind.

What are you doing that works against your goal?
Flip a card and write down the first thought that comes to mind.

What would shorten the journey to your goal?
Flip a card and write down the first thought that comes to mind.

What do you need to do more of?
Flip a card and write down the first thought that comes to mind.

What kind of help do you need?
Flip a card and write down the first thought that comes to mind.

Where can you find this help?
Flip a card and write down the first thought that comes to mind.

What’s the next step?
Flip a card and write down the first thought that comes to mind.

Don’t worry about writing out the questions or cards as you go you can do that afterwards. Don’t worry about being right, just focus on listening to and being open to the first thought that comes through. Just stay in the flow and allow the process to unfold.

After you have gone through once, you can review your answers and draft a secondary set of questions to help you go deeper and further. Be sure to avoid questions that involve why and focus on actions and beliefs.

And for goodness sake, don’t let ‘should’ find it’s way into your questions.

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