Stop Fighting and You Might Win More Often – Melinda’s Friday Message

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Welcome to another of my guide Melinda’s Friday messages about how to live life. Melinda and I work together to help people through the tarot readings I deliver. Melinda was a reader in her life. She has a great perspective drawn from both her last lifetime, being born in 1696, and her subsequent time as a spirit.


The Papesse is the middle road. She welcomes in all of the varying positions of her children. She also mediates and decides from a place of understanding and with an eye to what is best for everyone.

The Papesse is the middle road. She welcomes in all of the varying positions of her children. She also mediates and decides from a place of understanding and with an eye to what is best for everyone.

I want to talk today about the middle path. In so many situations we get polarized into different camps or positions. It is human nature to look at things from a “us and them” perspective. We are meant to live in small groups where the hierarchy is well defined. We have also moved so far past this way of life. How many people live within a mile of where you are right now? How far would you have to travel to be where that number was zero?

Progress is not the issue. That would be a now versus then situation and we are looking to move beyond polarities – at least for this conversation.

There a few kinds of conflict that you will run into.

Andrew has been running into a lot of random conflicts in his life lately. The random ranting religious person out front of the shop, the angry and unstable person on the subway kicking things, or the random violent outbreak at the Detroit bus station are all best to just step away from. There is no position to take in regards to them. They are unfortunate for everyone involved and beyond acting upon. All he could do is not get caught up in them.

On a larger scale many conflicts arise directly out of groups assuming a certain position. The conflict in Canada between the Government and the Idle No More people is a good example. The Idle No More movement’s need to get the Government to listen is strong. Their position must move towards finding a solution as the listening starts to happen. The Government’s position is to maintain its authority. This must bend towards hearing and acting. I doubt my words will reach the people involved.

On a more personal level we have more choice. People may take a side against us. Or they may only be looking out for themselves. My advice to Andrew in these situations is to always turn his attention towards finding a solution. It is not helpful to grab control. It is not helpful to set your heels. Anger and frustration are also a waste of energy. Has Andrew felt them? Yes. Is it normal for everyone to feel them? Of course. The sign of real growth is in how quickly you can move from reacting to working on a solution. The quicker you can move from a polarized position to asking the question “What can I do to fix this?” the better your life will be.

Being right is rarely the point. Being compassionate is.

Thank you for listening.
Melinda

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